The husband and I were having a discussion about whether or not its easier or harder to resolve conflict after being married for 35 years.
My husband thinks its easier. When you first start out like us, he says you are learning each other and it's harder to figure out how the other may react. And when you are young in the marriage you may not know how to bring up or start a discussion or express how you feel.
My opinion is that its harder when your marriage is older because you grow familiar with each other. There's an expectation of the other person should "know you" And you may tire of needing to be heard. I think you may be more likely to just let lying dogs lie. And not even bother. Now to clarify, i'm talking about when there are some serious communication issues developing in the relationship. I hope that after 35 years, I don't become to afraid, defeated, tired, or hopeless to keep working at my marriage, no matter the issue. I know that's so naïve and hopeless romantic like but I can see now looking forward that I have to put the work in now or else I may be to old to try later. :)
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