From the Start

The Chef and I talk about this quite often; whether its by death or divorce, could we, would we start over. Especially at this age.
I imagine that in the toughest times in a relationship it seems enchanting to find someone who will listen to our problems and perspective and make us feel valid. I imagine it is easy to be swept off our feet as women and to feel like a superhero as a man.
But once the work begins, does that person really know what they are about to encounter?

She
1. I like things to be orderly. Obsessively. Yes, I make lists. Lots of em; bills, grocery, trip planner and so on.
2. I lay my clothes out the night before. Especially with three kids, I don't have time to waste because I like to wait till 1/2 hour before I need to go somewhere to get up. Which leads to...
3. I wait to the very last minute to do most anything; clothes and dishes are number one on that list.
4. I have a smart mouth that never ends. And I use it more often than not because I also don't like slow thinkers. And even more importantly, I can't stand dumb questions.
5. Did I mention I have three strong willed, very opinionated kids, plus a 3 year old niece I watch daily.
6. I love music all day long but can't stand it when I sleep.
7. I like things to go my way and yes I do revert to a 5 year old mentality if things don't pan out.
8. Can't stand summer or shoes. Especially in my house.
9. Am prone to bouts of sadness for no good reason and refer to #3
10. And even though I complain A LOT about my rotundness, I may just be this way till I die.

He
1. Is an idea man and always will be. I'd be exceedingly wealthy if we could get paid for each one.
2. Thinks he's the next jay-z even though he most often would just get mistaken for the being the oldest looking jay-z.
3. Thinks he's russell simmons. Really.
4. Demands as much attention as the kids do at the same time the kids do.
5. Wears his shoes all through the house. Especially after walking through the sprinklers.
6. Doesn't drive at night and loves talk radio when he does drive.
7. Pretends he doesn't know anything and asks obvious aka dumb questions.
8. Has no patience or tolerance for noise.
9. Oh did I mention he has two kids. Refer to #8
10. Still has a wondering eye even though he can't see very well anymore with it.

As usual I laugh as I write the list (#1) and think as it relates to simply leaving (i.e. divorce or breaking up) it would be so simple to throw it all away over the enchantment of the unknown. But just think in that split second before being lulled in by the charm what will his or her top ten look like. Me personally, I don't know if in either situation, death or divorce, that I would want anyone to put up with or to put up with me....
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